We all want a bright future, don’t we? But you need a plan and this plan involves the ability to set life transforming goals.
Reaching the age of 40 unscathed in some way is unrealistic. Often, this is when we find ourselves at crossroads and maybe we’re a little lost. When we hit the wall and we feel too old to to do anything about it, it’s a grimly desperate situation. It’s sink or swim, my friend. It’s either stepping into your desired reality or into a care home. Trust me though, you can start over. But you’d better be prepared with a plan that leads you to a more fulfilled life after 40.
Which way to go?
This is when having a detailed list of life transforming goals will serve you as a roadmap to the reality you desire.
I presume that you have embarked on the journey of self-love with me because you want something to change.
Over the past few weeks, we have created new habits and incorporated new practices into your daily routine, with one ultimate goal:
To consistently manifest love and kindness towards yourself and thus improve the quality of your life.
I hope that the new habits that have taken root and are firmly grounded in your daily routine, will now allow for the positive changes to grow and expand.
If you have been consistent and regular in maintaining those new practices, you should by now feel at least a little different from when you started a few weeks ago.
Perhaps you’re more optimistic, more energetic, more ready to take on new challenges. Maybe you’re more rested, feel stronger, lighter, smile more.
And that’s a good time to keep yourself motivated.
Why the Ability To Set Life Transforming Goals Is Critical To Success
You’ve already started engaging with your goals and tackling the ones that are easily actionable. Hopefully, you had some time to reflect on those goals and any challenges you encountered when reaching them.
I trust that you remembered to treat challenges as lessons rather than failures and that this has given you faith and confidence for the future.
Because now that you had a little practice goal setting, it’s time to expand your ambition.
It’s time to take the control of what happens in your life to the next level.
How?
Write a detailed life goals list.
Have you ever tried to make a plan for major life goals?
All successful people use plans to achieve their goals.
As they say, it’s hard to get somewhere if you don’t know where exactly you want to get to.
Let’s look at some areas to focus on when attaining goals, and to get you in the right mindset.
What Are the Most Important Life Transforming Goals You Need to Set for Yourself?
Get Healthier
Health should be considered a top priority in your life, no matter what your goals are. Even when we are discussing self-love and self-care, it’s important to be aware that taking better care of your health IS the core of self-love and self-care.
Being healthy means that you’ll be able to have greater focus in life, as well as a sharper ability to solve problems.
When you’re starting to create your list of goals, keep in mind that they should be easy for you to track. That means that you should be able to figure out what you’ll need to do to get to those goals. And you should be able to measure how you’re doing.
Be sure to write out the list with each of the details, so for example, part of getting healthier will be making sure that you are the proper nutrition, so you might put down that you will learn about nutrition, buy the right foods, and make sure to do spend some time on meal preparation.
For example, set goals and measure the following:
- Use the step-counter to see how many steps you’ve done per day, week, month
- Monitor your weight loss
- Plan healthy meals for each day of the week
- Monitor the reduction of junk food
- Monitor increase of nutrients-rich food
- Follow a fitness program (apps or YouTube) and aim to complete it
As you complete the list, you’ll have a much clearer picture of what your next few months will be like.
Learn to Balance Your Moods
There are some days when it just seems like people aren’t on your side, but how do you deal with your anger?
For instance, if you’ve been wanting to learn how to control your temper in a bid to improve your relationships with others and cultivate a milder spirit, the first step is to realize that you’re the one who is in control of how people make you feel.
When people fall short of your expectations, it’s important to remember that not every trespass is a personal attack against you. Most people are relatively concerned with their own issues and daily business than being bothered about what you’re doing.
Another thing to think about somewhat seriously is how anger and stress can exact a hefty toll on the body over a sustained period of time. Intense emotional stress can bring about and aggravate some illnesses in people.
Having that much negativity can also harm vital organs like your heart, so learning to take it easy can also extend your life in some ways.
When it comes to expanding mental health goals, you can for example try to increase the time of your meditation to 30 minutes and add some breathing techniques to your routine.
Get a Grip on Your Finances
In a time of uncertainty, it can be really difficult to make the needed changes that will allow you to save money.
If you don’t feel as though you can make it in the amount of money that you currently make, then it will be important to find out how you can make more money, and the steps that you need to take to get there. Once you see a clear path, it’ll remove a lot of the stress of having to think about your finances.
Some people might even feel like it’s important to hire or see a professional that can help them to gain better control over their financial health. It takes a serious and honest look at your habits and lifestyle to see what you may need to do. Something as simple as an old unpaid bill can create stress.
If your finance is causing you stress, it’s important not to bury your head in the sand but gain control over the situation. Often, it’s the feeling that things are spiraling out of control and we have no influence that sends us into a panic.
I Was Dreadful With Money
I used to be a prime example of someone who had no idea how to manage money. I barely ever checked my bank balance. Bank statements confused me so they went straight into the trash. Until one fine day, I found myself in debt, and that forced me to face reality. Even though it wasn’t pleasant, to say the least, and I knew it would be a rocky road to recovery, I sat down and started crunching the number.
The moment I gained a clear picture of the situation, even if it was bleak, was the moment my stress levels dropped significantly. I was in control. I was going to run a tight ship. It was a wreck, really, but I was going to bring that ship into the harbor.
So take control of your money with regular monitoring and basic budgeting.
Become a Better Communicator
The majority of problems that people face in relationships are usually caused by poor communication techniques. And that applies to relationships with others as well as the relationship we have with ourselves.
People who haven’t developed a clear and honest communication technique can cause a lot of frustration to the people around them at work, school, and home, tho themselves.
If you find yourself prone to disagreements, then it might mean that there is something that you’re not conveying in a way that people can understand.
It can be easy to forget that other people don’t have the ability to know the nuances of how you receive information.
Often, we don’t communicate our needs clearly or at all. Especially, we women, often think that men should know what we want and what we need.
But that’s not so.
We have already touched upon the power of positive self-talk.
Now let’s take your communication goals one level up.
Sometimes it can be as simple as just listening, observing, asking what someone means, and reserving your judgment until you can see the situation from a better vantage point. It also means that sometimes we have to state the obvious to get our needs across because what’s obvious to us might not be so clear to someone else.
Make Learning a Part of Your Life
It’s pretty clear that increasing your knowledge is always a good thing. The more that you know about the world around you, the more equipped you will be when you come across an obstacle that you can’t immediately cross.
Challenge yourself and take on new hobbies that can be useful to you. If you can spend a few months doing something to sharpen yourself, you’ll probably notice that your attitude and confidence have increased over time.
Maybe you want to master yoga, a language, or a musical instrument.
Again, set yourself an achievable goal against which you can track and measure your progress.
Complete a yoga program.
Have a simple conversation in Spanish.
Play a simple tune on a guitar.
Challenge yourself and experiment.
Above all, have fun!
Week 8 Summary: Tracking Your Life Transforming Goals Progress
- Measure your physical activity
- Add breathing techniques to your meditation
- Take control of your finances
- Intensify positive self-talk and express your needs to others clearly
- Aim for the next level in learning a new skill
The ability to set life transforming goals is a truly necessary skill that everyoe should master. If you’re able to determine what you want to achive and maintain the consistency and the focus, you’ll get exaclty what it says on the tin: a transformed reality.
So go ahead and start today, even if you start with a modest goal. It still counts.
Self Love Program
Self-Love Week 1: 6 Simple and Affordable Ways To Start Practising Self-Love
Self-Love Week 2: 5 Ways to Build a Positive Relationship With Yourself
Self-Love Week 3: How To Treat Your Body With Kindness And Feel Happier
Self-Love Week 4: How To Have a Great Day Every Day? Wake Up Early To Avoid Panic and Meltdowns!
Self-Love Week 5: Start Living Your Best Life Now: Focus On Your Future, Not The Past
Self-Love Week 6: 5 Benefits of Positive Self-Talk For Life Change
Self-Love Week 7: How To Create a Daily Self-Care Ritual
Self-Love Week 8: How to Set Life Goals for Better Future After 40
Self-Love Week 9: How to Find Your Life Purpose in 5 Minutes a Day
This article was written by Zuzana Halliwell. I am not a doctor or health professional and cannot be held liable for the information written here. This article is meant to provide information about the benefits of a healthy lifestyle. The content is based on my own personal experience and on information provided by medical professionals that is available to the public. It is not intended to provide medical advice. Do not use it as an alternative to seeking help from a medical professional.
